Friday, October 17, 2008

To Disagree or To Be Disagreeable

Lately, I've encountered some disagreeable people. I know you have heard this before: "Opinions, everyone has one." It may not be exactly as you've heard it before but close, correct? I respect anyone's opinion. I even understand when it differs from mine but because I understand doesn't mean I am in agreement with the opinion.

Disagree means, "to differ in opinion" while, disagreeable means, "unpleasant in manner or nature." There is a tremendous difference, isn't there?

Some people are just plain disagreeable for whatever reason. I have tried to understand but have learned it's not necessarily a bad thing when I do not understand. One must be careful not to go where some minds go; to the outer limits, let's say. I have just about come to the conclusion that disagreeable people are probably unhappy and not enjoying the life they're living. They may even feel they're being forced to live and this is a sad state of being.

This being my way of thinking and analyzing 'disagreeable' people or people who are extremely difficult to get along with, I resort to praying for them. They are in dire need of prayer. The Holy Spirit brings joy and accord, not discord. Even if two people do not agree, they can have agreement that they do not agree with no harsh words, disrespect or false accusations being made. Not only is that Spiritual maturity but that's a sign of character and moral integrity.

These people tend to accuse others of the very shortcomings they possess. What they see so clearly is a reflection of themselves without a mirror. It makes them unhappy and instead of trying to correct their personal character flaws, they verbally assault others. Now, I must admit, it takes quite a bit of verbal assault for me to be wounded. I am apt to jump to the defense of someone else instead of my own defense because I am secure in who I am in Christ. I will readily apologize even if I feel I haven't done anything wrong. Some people's perception is their reality.

If you disagree with someone about something, just disagree. Do not launch an all around attack at them. They are likely not to care and you look rather poorly and risk alienating yourself from some really great people and opportunities.

Blessed are the Peacemakers. Remember?

Happy weekend and blessings!